 HALDI
KUMKUM: Women's Fun Meetings
A celebration which satisfies the feminine need to dress up is Haldi Kumkum. This is a
get-together organised by women for women and is held on several festive days of the year.
There is no religious or historical significance attached to this celebration. It has
gained popularity because such gatherings present opportunities for women to invite
friends, relatives and new acquaintances to meet in an atmosphere of merriment and fun. On
such occasions, the hostess distributes bangles, sweets, Vermillion, small novelties,
flowers, betel leaves and nuts as well as coconuts.
Sankranti is the first festival during which Haldi Kumkum meets are organised. Women
decorate their homes with floral torans and distribute sesame sweets and gifts to their
friends. Haldi Kumkums are also held during the first month of spring, Chaitra. On these
occasions, women joyfully share the fruits and vegetables of the season and have a feast
of mangoes, jackfruit, melons and sprouted pulses cooked with spices. Later in the year,
Haldi Kumkum festivities are also held during Mangalagauri, Haritalika and Navaratri.
Haldi Kumkum gatherings are occasions when newly married women show special respect to
their elders by seeking their blessings. Young brides take great pleasure in dressing up
in traditional garments and jewellery.
The custom of holding Haldi Kumkums was common during the rule of the Marathas and Peshwas
in Maharashtra. Palaces of the time had specific are as created for these very
celebrations with stone troughs built for holding the vermillion and turmeric powders.
In those days,'queens or courtiers wives, gave opulent gifts to their guests. Similarly,
gifts of jewels and rich clothing were offered to goddess Bhavani or Parvati before the
Haldi Kumkum season began.
In days gone by and even now in orthodox Hindu families, such occasions were meant only
for single or married women and excluded widows who were considered inauspicious and thus
unwelcome. The lowly status of widows is a major shortcoming of Hinduism. But in urban,
educated homes, such gatherings are becoming more open and are called Sakhi Sammelans or
women's friendly gatherings. Chaat and different kinds of spicy snacks, sweets or special
foods associated with the season are shared. Nevertheless, the purpose of most feminine
festivals is to pray for the welfare and prosperity of the family.
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